This week’s Wednesday Randomness topic is “The Perfect Lazy Day”. This was harder to write than expected. LOL I mean do I write the perfect day I could have if money was no object, teh perfect day away from home, the perfect day I could have right now, right here… See? So many choices.
So, I went with the perfect day I could have, here and now. Then, I have realistic hope I can have a perfect lazy day soon, yeah? 😀 And it doesn’t take much to make me happy, to make a lazy day perfect.
The perfect lazy day will always include a nice relaxing bath, surrounded by candles, maybe some soothing music playing. A bath in a super clean tub that I didn’t have to scrub myself. In which I could soak and get all loosy goosy with no interruptions. Seriously, all of those details are incredibly important – I don’t have to clean anything but myself and absolutely no interruptions.
You know any day of for me, relaxing or otherwise, would include reading. And not reading I have to do. Honestly, I’m lucky – even the required reading in my life, I tend to enjoy, but it’s not the same as just reading for pleasure, is it?
It’d be lovely to have a day with no obligations pulling at me, keeping me from making a dent in my To Be Read pile or reading some yummy fanfic.
I’d round out the day by catching up on some shows. I’m ridiculously behind on so many. I could spend many days binge watching, but I don’t, because too much to do and just not enough time.
But my perfect lazy day would end with me curled up, all cozy and comfy, remote in hand, watching some of my favorite characters living their lives and adventures. And I’m fairly certain a glass of wine…or several…would play a part, as well.
Make sure to see what the other Wednesday ladies would do on their perfect lazy days.
Before I start in on my top ten, I want to say thank you to the fantabulous Kris Norris. You may notice that my website and blog have had a makeover. And Kris did the heavy lifting in that! And it looks beautiful and I love it so much. So THANK YOU, Kris!!! MWAH.
Now, on to the top ten things I should be doing but don’t. In no particular order…
This is likely to be all over the place. Lots going on. It was a snow day today, so my quiet day of working and writing quickly disappeared.
I’m still desperately trying to find the balance in life. Some days, I think I’m getting closer, but other days… Like now, mostly what I’m thinking about is how behind I am on pretty much everything.
The hubby is traveling again, so I’m taking another trip on the single parent train. It’s not too bad, though, with 2 of the kids driving – drastically cuts back on my running around. And the oldest just got his own car, so that helps even more. But it’s still not easy when he’s gone…not just because of day-to-day logistics…
BUT…after he gets home, I’m running away. I’m going to be in Michigan for a bit – which includes invading Bronwyn’s house, likely driving her family nuts, and getting to see some of my other fave people, including some of the other Wed bloggers. I can’t wait. I need the break away from everyday craziness, the chance to see friends I don’t get to see often enough, and the time to just write without other things pulling at me.
I’m having conflicting feelings about the fact my oldest is turning 21 in a week. He’s a great guy, and I’m so proud of him, and I feel like I’ve done something good and right in this world when I see the man he’s becoming, but omg, my baby is turning 21 – how is that even possible?
So, yeah, that’s what’s been on my mind. I need to play catch-up tomorrow, so I’m going to sign off and get my ass to bed. 🙂
This week we’re talking about our writing hopes and aspirations.
I’m not difficult to please… Really, Im not. I don’t have aspirations of selling x-number of copies or landing on any lists. Not that I would run away from that, mind, but it’s not the “dream” for me.
When I think about what I want – what my hopes and dreams are – what I really want is to be able to write full-time. To make enough that I don’t have to work the other jobs. To be able to put writing first without feeling like I’m taking away from my family by doing so.
And that’s really it. That is what I hope for, what I aspire to.
Well, I was not looking forward to this post. I was coming at it, thinking, Well shit, I didn’t really accomplish anything at all this month. Another cruddy month in a line of them. That train of thought didn’t change when I looked back at my goals for the month:
All August blog posts—This is one I can say I absolutely did. So that’s good.
Write daily—Not so much. I wrote but not daily.
Kick word count ass the week I’m at Bron’s house—Ha! Did not kick word count ass at Bron’s. Not at all.
Keep up on house and self-care stuff—Did okay here. Not 100% and not where I want to be, but doing okay.
So definitely wasn’t doing so well this month, that was for sure. Yeah, I was in full pity-party mode.
But when I said as much, via text, to the Bron, she wouldn’t let that stand – because she is an awesome friend who doesn’t put up with my whiney, down-on-myself ass. This is the response I got:
Not true. You had a vacation, went to a con, did panels, had fun, stayed at my house and didn’t buy washi, wrote some, went to the evil dentist twice and fucking survived!
You survived dealing with another fucking international trip, sending your kid off to college…no, two trips…
YOU RERELEASED THOSE BOOKS, BITCH
And she’s right. Just because I didn’t absolutely hit those four things from last month’s list doesn’t mean I didn’t accomplish anything.
I did have a great vaca and vist to Bron’s. The con we went to was amazing, and I did panels, even though public speaking makes me want to vom, and think I did pretty all right on them. I didn’t spend copious amounts on washi or other bujo/planner accessories that I don’t need (but are oh so pretty and I wants them).
The evil dentist…I did survive those traumatic experiences (and to be fair, my dentist is a lovely woman who has, for some reason, chosen this career path…but I have issues with dentists in general and isn’t something I’m getting over any time soon, apparently).
I edited over 200K this month (a couple times over as most of those manscripts I did two rounds on).
I survived the 17 year old traveling internationally without me for most of the month (she is home now and had a wonderful time! Such an awesome experience for her!). Am still surviving…dare I say succeeding day to day…while the hubby is on another international trip for work.
And I did send my oldest off to college. It’s not his first year, but he lived at home while attending community college the last couple years. Now, he is at a larger university and has moved out. *deep breath* I wasn’t prepared for this, even though I knew it was coming. But he is settling in and doing great so that is excellent.
And yeah! I released my Seeking Shelter series! I did that!
So, that as my August. Looking forward, here are my goals for the month of September:
All September blog posts
Write daily – making it a priority, doing it first thing in the morning before I move on to other tasks. This seems to be the strategy that works best for me, so I need to actually do it.
Release Safeword Protected (will be announcing the specific release date very soon! Beyond excited about this. It’s like…Finally, Jarman, FINALLY! It’s a loooooooong time coming with this book.)
Come up with a plan/schedule for other re-releases…and start implementing said plan.
I don’t even know how to start this post. I guess the best way is to just be honest about it, eh? This year hasn’t been a great one as far as writing goes. Finding the balance still continues to be a challenge for me. To the point that I was seriously considering just quitting. Not writing anymore. I wasn’t in a good place. All I saw were all the obstacles to writing, and I wasn’t seeing a way around them at all. All I could think of were the books and projects I’d promised and hadn’t delivered on… Felt a bit hopeless, to be honest, and thought it’d just be better to stop trying and failing.
But I’m pretty damned lucky with the people I have in my life. Besides having a great husband who let me vent and cry when frustrated and sad and overwhelmed, I have an amazing group of friends. I just got back from an annual writing retreat with four of those awesome friends. While I didn’t break any records on words writing while there, it was exactly what I needed.
I had distance from everything that was pulling at me and making it hard to think straight. I was with other writers who face just as many, if not more, challenges as I do making writing fit in their lives. I had time to relax and just be. And I had the opportunity to be a writer. To remind myself that this is who I am. And to remember that I’m allowed to put writing first. I’m allowed to say no to other things. I’m allowed to do something for me.
So that’s it, really. I’m not going to focus on words/pages/scenes written the past six months (or not written). I’m looking forward…with the knowledge that I’m going to be a writer again. I get to take the next six months of the year making writing my priority again.
With that in mind, I’ve set some goals for myself for the next half of 2017. No looking back, just looking ahead.
Write daily. And make it first! I will work on my writing first thing after I wake, before I jump into all the other stuff. I’m not focusing on the numbers here. Just writing daily – building that habit again.
Get back to the self-care routine I had. Yeah, that’s another thing that went by the wayside when things got nuts. Probably not a coincidence things just kept getting worse when I really wasn’t taking care of myself at all. Time to get back on that.
Complete all scheduled blog posts.
Reach out when things do get overwhelming. Shouldering it myself and isolating myself sure as hell doesn’t help. Need to do things differently.
Happy last Friday of April! I’m currently sitting in the Orlando airport – heading back home after a short getaway with the hubby. A much needed one. We don’t often get to take time away together. So when he had a conference in Orlando and asked if I wanted to tag alone, I said yes before he was even done asking. Especially as he’ll be traveling for work most of the next month and I won’t be seeing him *sad panda*
It’s been a lovely little vaca, and as I said, much, MUCH needed, but I’m ready to get back home and get back to work.
So…time to check in. Here were my goals for April (I’m actually a bit afraid to look at this as it’s been a weird month and I feel as though I’ve accomplished nothing.)
Publish Safeword Protected – Going to be cutting it way close on this one. It *may* end up being the first week of May. Not happy about that. Kinda pissed at myself, to be perfectly honest.
Complete Into the Deep – Yeah, we’re not even going to talk about this one. No “kinda” about it…pissed at myself.
Self-care and house stuff – This, I’ve actually kept up on.
Complete all scheduled April blog posts – Including this post…DONE.
Complete May newsletter short – Still a work in progress. But will be done soon, in time for our May newsletter.
Keep Writing & Publishing and Marketing bujos updated – Done
Come up with a reasonable writing schedule for the next couple months (Keyword: REASONABLE, Jarman!) – I’m still working on this. Mostly because my life schedule (or all the schedules that impact my life – hubby’s work/travel, kids’ school schedules…) will be drastically changing in the next couple weeks with hubby’s travel and the kids finishing up school, etc.) But I’m making progress.
Overall, I’m not super happy with April.
But not going to dwell. Going to move forward. So, goals for May… I’m going super duper simple this month.
Write daily – doesn’t matter if it’s only a paragraph. Heck a sentence. But writing DAILY.