Wednesday Randomness: Self Interview

Happy Wednesday, all. This week, we’re doing an easy post – and that makes me so happy because I JUST got back from traveling and am exhausted. 🙂 Will post more about my adventures later. 
 
For now, though, on with the self-interview…
 

What’s your favorite word? Love (Yeah, it’s corny, but come on! Someone saying “I love you”, “Love” as an endearment… I LOVE love. 🙂


What’s your least favorite word?
Pus (*shudder*) Probably because of what it brings to mind. 

What turns you on?
Oh boy…so many things. Some simple – a look, a teasing touch, that kind of thing. Others more complex, like someone making you feel like you’re the only person they see, that the world disappears when they’re with you. I couldn’t possibly list everything, but those are the ones that come to mind immediately. 

What turns you off?
Selfishness

What sound do you love?
Waves

What sound do you hate? Someone puking (sorry, but it’s the first thing I thought of. LOL)

What’s your favorite curse word?
Fuck

What profession other than yours would you like to attempt? Damn, this is a hard one because I honestly believe I have the greatest job and it’s all I ever really wanted to do. If I had to choose something else to do I’d say literature professor because of my love of the written word and wanting to pass that on. *shrug*

What profession would you not like to do?
I couldn’t work in health care. I was a nursing assistant for a while. I couldn’t handle it *hangs head shamefully* Where I worked…I burned out quickly when I couldn’t help in some cases even though I desperately wanted to. So never again for health care. 

If heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates?
You did well; come on in. 

Dog or cat person? Love both but have to say dog because I’m more allergic to cats than dogs. LOL

Coffee or tea?
Coffee

Star Wars or Star Trek? Star Trek


Buffy, Angel or Firefly? I shall NOT choose! I will rank them though… Buffy, Firefly, then Angel. 

Pirate or ninja?
Arg. 

Morning or night person? Night person, for sure. 

Procrastinator or get things done early?
*cue hysterical laughing* Procrastination is my game, folks, as much as I wish it wasn’t. 

Introvert or extrovert?
Introvert. I definitely recharge with time on my own, away from others. 

What do you like best about writing?
Living vicariously through my characters. 

What do you like least?
When life gets in the way. Writing has to be pushed back to the back burner sometimes. Family always comes first and no regrets on that front, but I hate when I can’t write, regardless of the reason. 
 
Check out how the other ladies answered these questions. 🙂 
Until next week!
Hugs,
~J

Wednesday Randomness: What Motivates Me

Happy Wednesday! 

Today, we’re talking about what motivates us. Fairly broad topic, actually, but I decided I’d talk about what motivates me as far as writing is concerned. So here we go… What motivates me to write. 

Surrrounding myself by people who are supportive and understanding. 
There’s a reason I listed this one first. It’s SO important. I’m incredibly lucky in who I share my life with. My husband is pretty awesome–for many reasons, not the least of which is he is so supportive when it comes to my writing and my career. I’d be in a bad, bad place without him, let me tell you. 

Friends, certainly fall under this, as well. I have some pretty amazing friends. Talking with them–whether on IM, via email or the phone, or in person–is motivating. And none of them are afraid of giving me a kick in the ass when needed (which I’m ashamed to say is all too often)

Conferences and Retreat
Conferences are so much fun. Getting to connect with readers and other authors. Seeing friends, making new ones. There is something about the energy at conferences… Even though I come home exhausted, I’m pumped up too. I’m ready to sit town and WRITE. It’s awesome. 

Retreat!!! I’m talking about the fabulous retreat I take every year to the Upper Peninsula of Michigan with an amazing bunch of ladies. 

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A weeks spent on Lake Superior, great company lots of wine, and WRITING. This year, I wrote over 15K words while there… and we did plenty of other things as well. Being there is so motivating and I get so much done. And like with conferences, I come home just as motivated to KEEP writing.

 
Accountability

Some of this is just to myself, but let’s face it, when you have to answer to someone else…that’s strong motivation, yeah? While writing my last book, I found sending chapters to friends–Bronwyn and Kris and Gwen–kept me honest and on track. Nothing like getting an email or IM saying, hey, where’s the next chapter? 😀 

Readers
There is nothing, and I mean NOTHING, like having a reader emailing or tweeting me saying they liked one of my books and/or asking when the next one comes out. That defintiely gets the fingers moving quickly over the keyboard. 🙂 

Rewards
Yeah, it’s totally self-bribery, no doubt about it. But it works. I make deals with myself. Write for an hour or write 1K words, then I can play on Tumblr and gaze at pics like this…

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Come on…THAT’S motivating, yeah? 


Or I can read (usually a filthy fanfic or something) for a half hour or so. But I set a timer so that when my time is up, I get back to writing, working towards the reward. 😀 

And that’s it. That’s how I’m motivated to keep plugging away and getting the words on the page. Make sure to head on over and see what motivates the other ladies. 

Until next week…
Hugs, 
~J


Wednesday Randomness: Things I Fear

Happy Wednesday! Today, the lovely ladies and I are talking about our fears. Oh fears, I have’em. LOL
I’m going to do my top three. I could do more, but I’ve got a book to finish so I’m limiting myself to three. 🙂 So here it goes…

1. Spiders – this is the first things that pop into my head when I think of fears. I’ve always been afraid of them… Logically, I can tell myself it’s silly, but I see one and I freeze…or run screaming, arms flailing in the opposite direction if that’s a viable option. Luckily, I have a husband and son who are willing to terminate any that come around me. If I’m alone… objects get thrown across the room at the devil’s spawn. My aim has gotten pretty good.

2. Heights – I can’t do rollercoasters, much to my family’s dismy, and I’m wary of climbing things or being high up. Heights are not something I enjoy. Oddly, I don’t have a problem with flying, and even enjoy the window seat. *shrug* I think some of it is I’m not the most graceful person. I manage to trip on fall over air on the safe, flat ground. Why add dangerous heights that could result in my gruesome death into the mix? That’s just not smart, people.

3. Failure – I’m going deep here, folks. LOL Not an outside, tangible thing here. This is a fear that can be paralyzing. I’m my own worst enemy, to be honest. The biggest thing in my way. When I find myself in a cycle of self-sabatoge, often not realizing I’m doing it right away, the root of it is always fear of failure. Of falling flat on my face, of not being able to meet expections. And it’s easier to say I wasn’t able to do something because an outside force interfered than to admit I failed. Because who wants to fail. Not me!

And that’s it, my darlings.

Check out what the other ladies said this week…

Bronwyn Green
Kellie St. James
Kris Norris
Leigh Jones
Tess Grant

Until next week. 🙂
Hugs
~J

Wednesday Randomness: Pet Peeves

Happy Wednesday! This week, we welcome another author to the Wednesday Randomness. One of my all time favorite people… Kris Norris. I adore her and am so happy she’s jumping into this with us. Welcome, my dear!

When we decided to write on pet peeves this week, I was excited, thinking that I could knock this post out in no time. Wrong. I have stared at this blank page for longer than I care to share. But, without further ado, here is my attempt at listing my pet peeves.

1. Not following through – I think I’m pretty understanding. I get when life gets in the way and shit happens. Do I ever! But when it comes to people who promise and promise and never ever follow through on those promises? That burns my ass.

I’m not saying I don’t drop the ball sometimes. I totally do. I’ve gotten bogged down and been late on things more times than I care to remember. Or something has happened and I can’t do what I thought I could. BUT, I own it, I think. I explain and apologize and do what I can to make up for it (if it’s possible.) But what I’m talking about, what really pisses me off, is when this is the norm and the person doesn’t even seem to think there is a problem. There is no apologies, no acknowledgement that maybe their lack of following through has just fudged up my plans. 🙁

2. Self entitled people – News flash: The world doesn’t owe you anything, it’s not always someone else’s fault, the world doesn’t revolve around you.

This is a big one for me, because I just want to scream at people to grow the frick up and OWN their lives – the good, the bad, and all the freaking messed up shit. While how we grow up and who is in our lives definitely influence our decisions, placing the blame on those things for everything that goes wrong in our lives…it gets old.

And the thought that somehow you deserve more or better that the rest of us? Well, I’m not going to start ranting on that one because I wouldn’t get anything else done today. (And of course, I’m using “you” to generally address people who operate under these beliefs – not addressing anyone reading this blog specifically!)

3. Being unclear about expectations – It drives me up the wall when expectations aren’t clear. When suddenly I’m bearing the brunt of someone’s annoyance or anger because I didn’t do something “right”. If you want me to do something, and you want it done in a specific way, please, please, PLEASE tell me that upfront, for the love all things glorious!

4. Hypocrisy – This can come in many forms. Many, many forms. One I’ve come across recently that just makes me…not so much angry, but really, really sad…is I’ve heard people talk about someone who is going through a rough time. This person isn’t a nice person. He’s actually a pretty cruel, hateful person, truth be told. But when people I know found out about the horrible stuff happening in this person’s life, they went off on hate-filled rants about how this person deserved it and they hope he suffered, and so on. Now, don’t get me wrong, I will admit to having a thought or two about Karma and it biting someone in the ass. I did. BUT answering hate with hate? When has that ever turned out well?

I’m by no means perfect, and I’ve been guilty of pretty much everything on the above list at one point in my life.  I just hope I recognize it when it happens and do a one-eighty, yeah?

So those were biggies. There are other, more minor, things that drive me batty. These are pretty self explanatory.
1. People who don’t use their blinker when changing lanes or turning.
2. Chewing with mouth open.
3. Not separating laundry the right way (ie. my way)
4. Using the last of the toilet paper and not replacing the roll.
5. Asking questions during movies/tv shows (“Who’s that?” “Why she do that?” “Is he going to die?” Just shut up and watch!)
6. Double negatives.
7. Guys who say they are “babysitting” their own kids.
8. Not using a bath mat when taking a shower or bothering to wipe up the flood of water left behind, resulting in my socks getting soaked when I go to take my morning pee.
9. Leaving hair in the sink after shaving or trimming bangs or whatever.
10. Swearing in public – Note: I can curse up a blue streak and drop f-bombs like nobody’s business, but I try so hard to be aware of my surroundings. When I’m out with my kids – especially when they were little-little – it would drive me up the wall when people would swear wily-nily around them. Because I don’t want to have to explain why my cute little four year old just casually called her grandma a bitch, thank you very much.

I’m going to end there, because now that I’ve started, I could just keep on going. But I won’t.

So what are your pet peeves? Comment away, friends!

What drives the other girls up the wall? Go forth and find out!

Bronwyn Green
Leigh Jones
Kellie St. James
Tess Grant
Kris Norris

Until next week!
Hugs
~j

Wednesday Randomness: I Can’t Live Without…

Happy Wednesday! We have a couple of ladies joining Bron, Leigh and me on our Wednesday Randomness posts. Welcome Kellie and Tess! So glad you’re here. 😀

So this week, we decide to list five things we can’t live without. So here it goes…

1. Family & Friends – To be honest, I wasn’t going to mention people at all, and keep this limited solely to things. Mostly because I have a lot of wonderful people in my life and to list them all would be impossible someone would get left out inadvertently (because I have a sieve for a brain), and when I finally realized the error, I’d feel horrible and guilty and wallow in it.

That being said, I just had to list this first, keeping it general and not naming names. Why did I have to list this? Well, I’ve been reminded over and over again lately just how awesome the people around me are. I have tremendous support from those in my life. I’m so lucky I can hardly believe it. Specifically, my husband is just…well, let’s just say I don’t know what I’d do without him. (And I didn’t say his name so I’m sticking with my no naming names rule!) He’s been traveling a lot for work lately and this results in a couple things. First, I’m so grateful for the help and support from family and friends as I single parent it with four kids. Second, even when he’s a half a world away, he’s the only one that can really calm my neurotic ass down. And he does it, without hesitation, even though he’s off working insane hours in a foreign country. For example, I was stressing about something last night, just worked up, and once I’d talked to him – a handful of words while he was in between meetings – and I was able to relax and actually sleep.

So yeah, I’m incredibly blessed with the people who are in my life and I damned well know it!

2. Caffeine – I’m not particularly picky here. Coffee or pop, either will do. I need the caffeine. I’ve always had trouble sleeping, so as a woman who has a lot to do, I need to be able to function. Caffeine is my crutch, plain and simple. I realize that this is a bad cycle because I consume huge amounts of caffeine, which then affects my sleep, then I need more caffeine, and so on and so on. It’s a problem, and  I should probably cut back. Really really should. And I hope someday I can. But today is not that day. *glug glug*

3. My phone – Yeah, I’d be lost without it. I use it ALL the time. To check email and listen to music, My to do lists are all on there. I don’t even wear a watch; my phone IS my watch. And it’s how I’m available all the time for my kids. With three teenagers and one preteen, our schedule are insane. So checking in is done by text or phone call a lot of the times. Also, when I forget to pick up a kid (which has happened an embarrassing number of times) because I’m running with another or something, I can be contacted immediately. And speaking off, the regularly scheduled pick ups or drop offs? All scheduled in my phone to ding with reminders. Yeah, definitely be lost without my phone.

4. Internet – Seems silly but OMG, when my internet was down I thought I was going to go insane. INSANE!! Everything I do is online, almost! My family – mom, dad, siblings – live hundreds of miles away. Most of my friends live hundreds of miles away (AND I met most of them…yep, you guessed it, ONLINE). And yes, I can – and do – call and talk to them, but honestly the internet is what keeps us connected. Whether it’s email, IM, playing Words with Friends with my mom and sister, FaceTiming or Skyping with the hubby when he’s out of town, or using it for work/research, the internet is definitely my friend and a HUGE part of my every day life. It keeps me connected.

5. Tumblr – Okay, if forced to, like during a zombie apocalypse, of course I could live without Tumblr. But, guys, this is my happy place, I’m not ashamed to say. I can fangirl like crazy and just not think about stuff. It’s total escape for me, and sometimes, I just need that.

Check out what the other girlies said they couldn’t live without!

Bronwyn Green
Leigh Jones
Kellie St. James
Tess Grant

Until next week! 🙂
Hugs
~J

Wednesday Randomness: Shuffle, Shuffle, Shuffle

Happy Wednesday!

This week Bron, Leigh, and I are writing about music. We are putting our ipods/mp3 players on shuffle and sharing the first 10 songs that pop up. I was quite happy with this (easy!) topic since this week is CRAZY busy.

So here we go…*shuffle* (Song – Artist – Album)

1. On the Rise – Neil Patrick Harris & Felicia Day – Dr. Horrible’s Sing Along Soundtrack Um, nothing much to say here, but I love Dr. Horrible? And Felicia Day. And freaking NPH. The songs on this album are often belted out around chez Jarman. Not just by me.

2. White Blank Page – Mumford & Sons- Sigh No More Oh, Mumford & Sons. I adore them, I adore this album. This is one of my go to albums for pretty much anything…when I’m writing, when I’m cleaning, when I’m just lazing about.

3. Fucking Perfect – P!nk – Greatest Hits…So Far This song… I won’t lie; I like P!nk’s music. But this song… The video makes me cry. Every time. (It could be triggering some ppl. Specifically, it had images of self-harm, so don’t play if this is an issue for you. Just wanted to say that upfront). This song is also on my playlist for a project I just started working on. Fits my heroine and her journey perfectly, I think. So it’s getting a lot of play time.


4. Towers Fall Into the Sea – Clocks & Clouds – Life Beyond Reason Another go to album/artists for me. The cellist used to be my kids’ orchestra teacher. Clocks & Clouds is amazing. Wonderful writing music. 



5. We R Who We R – Ke$ha – Cannibal Well apparently, if the artist has a symbol in their name they are on my list. Do not judge me people. This is a great song to work out to. And for funsies, enjoy this video…the song signed. It’s fabulous. 😀

 
6. The Mustard – Cast – Buffy the Vampire Slayer: Once More with Feeling Soundtrack So this isn’t even really a full song, but yes, I have the Buffy musical soundtrack. And I like it. Not sorry. 😛
 
7. We Shall Never Surrender – Clocks & Clouds – Life Beyond Reason Huh, another Clocks & Clouds. Love this one too. 😀 
8. Deee-Lite – Groove is in the Heart – The Very Best of Deee-Lite Oh man, I can feel the judgement already. Go ahead, I can take it. 
 
9. The Lighthouse’s Tale – Nickel Creek – Nickel Creek One of my favorite songs. Love Nickel Creek and love Chris Thile on the mandolin…
 
10. Hey There Delilah – Plain White T’s – All That We Needed Not much to say about this one. Like the song. LOL 🙂 
 
And that’s it. First 10 songs on shuffle. Check out which songs Bron and Leigh came up with! 

Hugs
~J

Wednesday Randomness: My Sad Purse Post *pout*

Happy Wednesday, everyone. So this week, Bronwyn, Leigh and I are sharing what’s in our purse or bag. So I grab my purse, thinking this isn’t going to be the most entertaining post. Let’s face it, the contents of my purse are much more amusing when I’m on a trip or something. Or when I had little kids there were always interesting things finding their way into my purse. 

So I sit down and start pulling stuff out… And seriously, this is what I find: 

As boring as I feared my purse-sharing would be, dear friends, this isn’t what I expected to find. 
 
Where is my lip balm, my gum, my small notebook, my hand sanitizer? Where????? I will tell you… I have 4 teenagers (well 3, one is a preteen, but CLOSE ENOUGH) who are THIEVES!!!!
 
So this is what I’m left with. My wallet, pens, and TWO FREAKING PENNIES! Thank you, children, for leaving me two cents. 
 
My keys are normally in my purse, but hubby was using my car so… Although, when he got back and popped the keys back in my purse, he added a little something extra: 

 

And, of course, I would have my phone in there as well, but was using it to take the pics. So I swiped my son’s phone, so I could show you the gorgeous phone cover I now have thanks to Bron! She’s the best.
Isn’t it pretty???
So that’s it for me and my purse. LOL I’m positive Bron’s post and Leigh’s post will be far more fun. LOL 
 
Hugs
~J
 
 

Wednesday Randomness: Take Me Away!

For Wednesday Bloggin’ this week, Bronwyn, Leigh and I are listing five place we’d like to visit. Now, I’m keeping things pretty general with this one, because if I listed every specific thing I’d like to visit and see before I die… Well, I don’t think anyone would read a blogpost that long!

So here goes nothing…

Ireland

This is the big one; the destination on the top of my wish list.My entire life I’ve wanted to visit Ireland. I don’t know why, but I’ve always felt a pull. I hope one day to go. I could spend hours exploring, take hundreds of pictures, drink many pints of beer. It’d be heaven. 🙂 Just look at the gorgeousness…

 

 

 

Grand Canyon

I’d have thought by now, the Grand Canyon would have been crossed off my bucket list, but no such luck. I really hope this one happens soon. It is just beautiful, isn’t it? I just want to soak it all in.

 

 

Italy

Always wanted to visit Italy, and Rome in particular. The architecture fascinates me. And the food…and THE WINE. Oh, I think I could spend a lot of time in this country and be just fine. 🙂

 

 

I think a trip to a vineyard is a must, don’t you?

Alaska

I’ve had family live in Alaska and have always wanted to visit. To see the mountains and vastness of it all. Growing up in Upper Michigan, I’ve had the joy of seeing Northern Lights but I can only imagine how spectacular they’d be in Alaska. Maybe one day…

 

 

England

Soon, I’ll be able to cross this one off my list! 🙂 I’ll be taking a trip in the fall to England and I cannot wait. (Seriously, I’m so excited I could almost pee my pants!) I have so many things I want to see, and I know I won’t be able to see them all. So I’m still working on my absolute must see list. One thing I know that is on there? The Globe Theatre – Yeah, I’m a dork. I totally know that and am fine with it.
The Globe

 

And that’s it fr
om me this week. 🙂 Be sure to check out Bron’s post and Leigh’s post.

What about you? Where have you always wanted to go?

Hugs
~J

Wednesday Randomness: I Wanna Do That!!

Happy Wednesday!!! As you know, Bronwyn Green and I have been tandem blogging on Wednesdays. This week, I want to say welcome to Leigh Jones, who is going to join us on our Wednesday bloggin’ party. 🙂

This week we decided to blog on three things we’d like to learn how to do. Number one on my list, at the moment is….

Basic Home Repairs 

I have no desire to take care of everything in the house, but to be able to deal with those those things that come up every so often. Or in my case, every single stinking time my husband goes out of town. He’s currently out of the country, and I ended up with water all of the laundry room floor. The washer is losing water, and I cannot for the life of me figure out where it’s coming from. And, lets’ be honest, even if I did, I’d be clueless as to how to fix it. So I’d like to know how to deal with the basic household repairs–leaky faucets and the like–and not have to call the hubby or my dad to get over-the-phone instructions to fix something. (And major props to them for being awesome and patient with me when I do call on them for something!)

Learn to Knit Something OTHER Than a Rectangle!

I can knit a few basic things–a scarf, a blanket, a shawl (as long as it’s rectangular, mind you!), but I would love to be able to knit something more complex, and let’s face it, much more awesome. I see pics and patterns for things to knit and yearn to be able to do it. Something like this…

 

Learn to Cook Healthy but GOOD Food

I actually really enjoy cooking, and I’m not too shabby at it. However, I’m trying to be healthier and lose some weight. I’m not so good at the cooking light thing. Most of the things I’m good at cooking require lots of butter, cream, sugar…and pretty much anything else that I (and my family!) should only eat in moderation. Now, I’ve attempted some healthier cooking and I didn’t completely fail (though there were some failures in there, let me tell you!), but I don’t want to just eat the basic baked/grilled chicken or fish, grilled or sauteed veggies, salads up the wazoo… I’d love to learn to cook a variety of healthy, delicious food. Because, seriously, it needs to taste GOOD. And the healthier I eat, the more wine I can indulge with later, right? 😉

And that’s it from me. I’m sure I could come up with more things I’d like to learn, but honestly, I tried to come up with three things I had a CHANCE of learning in the near future. Realistic goals and all that.

What are some things you’d like to learn to do?

Make sure you go and check out Bron’s Post and Leigh’s Post and see what THEY want to learn how to do. 🙂

Hugs,

~J